Monday, August 31, 2015

REal Truth When you Take Time before Judging

There is so much more truth that you are blind to....the stories behind the eyes which cannot see.. or know.. before you jump to conclusions take time to listen and understand... other wise we are all in trouble and not knowing the real stories..
By Sonia F Stevens

Friday, August 14, 2015

Knowledge and Happyness

The more you learn the less you are informed, the more your mind works with that growing knowledge the less happy life becomes in reality. The more confused you life becomes. Then more you understand this, the more you need to learn and grow.. the cycle of life grows the more confusion in ones life and the less unhappy you become. As most things you cannot change. As you adjust to the knowledge known. Most times life confuses when you become unhappy then more unfilled you feel.


Tuesday, August 11, 2015

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Saturday, October 4, 2014

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People In Pain Acknowledge

It’s not just in our head. The pain is there and always would be even if there is no apparent reason for it. Our pain is real and will not just go away after we take some pills for a week or two. It would always be there and we have learned to live with it. Here are 16 more things we wish you knew about us!
1. We Don’t Make a Mountain out a of Molehill
You think you can imagine our pain? Now multiply that amount by 10. No matter how sympathetic you are, studies have proved that people tend to underestimate other people’s pain. Chronic pain by default is hard to imagine unless you have experienced it in your life. It’s invisible, but it is always there. We urge health care not out of hypochondria or the need for attention, but because of our severe physical state.
2. We Need to Balance Actions Carefully
We use the Spoon Theory: We have a limited amount of spoons each day we could use for different actions. Getting up, getting dressed, taking a shower, driving, walking, picking up the phone — each action requires us to use one of our precious spoons. On good days, we finish with a few spoons left, so we can do something fun. On bad days, we borrow spoons from the next day and need extra recovery afterwards. So if we suddenly cancel our plans with you or tell we can’t do it now — it’s just because we ran out of spoons today. Try to understand this.

3. We Struggle to Find a Good Doctor
Sadly, a lot of health care pros lack knowledge in pain management because it is rarely part of their training. We often visit numerous specialists before receiving a proper diagnosis and wait months to years to see a real pain specialist for treatment. Doctors often fall victim to the cognitive error of underestimating another’s pain and a small number of doctors are willing to take the legal risks involved in prescribing powerful pain pills.
Same goes with the nurses. Finding a good one who can really understand and help us relieve the pain is hard! Luckily, there are some online schools like Sacred Heart University that are training future nurse leaders to overcome these issues in the future and provide better care for patients.
While you may think it’s crazy, we’re willing to travel further to find a good nurse with this kind of training and rave about it when we find one.
4. We Are Not Lazy
Remember the limited amount of spoons we have? Now add the fact that it takes twice as much effort for us to complete even simple things. We try harder than other folks, yet we still manage to accomplish less.
5. We Try to Look Our Best
“But you don’t look sick” is one of the most common phrases you hear if you have invisible disease. Well yes, we try to look our best even on bad days when our body explodes from pain. We dress up carefully to cover up our bruises or swelling, take painkillers at the optimal time, and rest before going out. We would love to pass as normal as much as possible! Even if we feel pain, we would keep it to ourselves until the moment we step into our apartment and just collapse.
6. We Don’t Ignore You
Sometimes our pain occupies too much space in our brains and we simply cannot focus on anything else. Pain can be very distracting and mentally draining, so please forgive us when we can’t give all the attention to you.

7. We Know Our Illness Won’t Go Away
It’s always there. We can’t escape. And yes, we have researched all the possible options. If there was a cure, we would know about it!
8. We Are Not Drug Seekers
Sadly, we need to explain that both to the doctors and folks around. We don’t want drugs. We want anything to make the pain go away even for a little while. So yes, sometimes our treatment requires taking opioids or medical marijuana. We treat those just like any other remedy. And no, we are not particularly fond of the side effects either.
In fact, as the Cleveland Clinic explains: Addiction appears to be distinctly uncommon in patients without a prior history of addiction. Addiction is a psychological phenomenon that isn’t caused by chemical components of the drugs and typically requires a setting different from the one we have. We take our drugs under supervision and come back home to the loving family unlike the street-users.
9. We Don’t Always Know How to Manage Our Pain
Just because we have been dealing with it for ages doesn’t mean we always know how to tame it. Sometimes, we have very bad days when no previous routines help. We just close our eyes and wish those would pass faster.
10. We Get Super Active on Good Days
Physically feeling good is just about the most exciting feeling we can have! We can do our chores normally, go on a day trip, meet with a bunch of people at a time, and even think of running a marathon. On a good day we are super active and excited with everything, trying to get as much done as possible!
11. We Don’t Want You to Stop Inviting Us Out
No matter how many times we have said “no” we still want to be part of the gang and go out when we really can do it.
12. We Don’t Have a Job for a Reason
Again, we are not lazy. It’s just that we often lack spoons to work on the top of our other activities and daily chores. Besides, most employees refuse to take staff for a few hours per week and tolerate the fact that we can leave at the middle of the day if our pain gets unbearable.
On the bright side though, thanks to technology we can work from home in our own pace, doing various jobs online, selling stuff on eBay, learn everything we need from self-help and nursing to jobs online. If we don’t have a regular job, it doesn’t mean we can accomplish nothing in life. Multiple sclerosis did not stop Vanessa from creating an award-winning music company!
13. We Don’t Want Sympathy, We Want Acceptance
Instead of making that “I’m so sorry for you” sad face, treat us like equals. It’s not that you should completely ignore our condition, but show us you are ok with it and ready to make small adjustments for us.
14. We Don’t Want Your Medical Advice
Believe me, we have heard enough already and feel frustrated, as they don’t work. Thanks for the thought, but let’s just talk of something else. My disease does not define me. I know a lot of other interesting things, I would love to discuss with you instead.
15. We Need to Know You Are Here for Us
No matter how self-sufficient and independent we try to appear, sometimes we just need you to be here with us and hold our hand on a bad day.
16. We Appreciate You and Everything You Do for Us
You should never forget that We are eternally grateful for supporting us and making us feel loved!

We acknowledge our pain and try to move forward, even though at times we can become depressed at times as people can also be crewel and abuse us verbally in front of us and mostly chastise us behind our backs. Real Friendships we cherish and love. We also support many others as we do know and understand what others go through as we have already been through so much. We can still have great courage. And we do get tired, mentally, socially, physically and spiritually.

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Monday, April 14, 2014

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Traumatic Memories Hid in the Brain!!

Some stressful experiences – such as chronic childhood abuse – are so overwhelming and traumatic, the memories hide like a shadow in the brain.
At first, hidden memories that can’t be consciously accessed may protect the individual from the emotional pain of recalling the event. But eventually those suppressed memories can cause debilitating psychological problems, such as anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder or dissociative disorders.
A process known as state-dependent learning is believed to contribute to the formation of memories that are inaccessible to normal consciousness. Thus, memories formed in a particular mood, arousal or drug-induced state can best be retrieved when the brain is back in that state.
In a new study with mice, Northwestern Medicine scientists have discovered for the first time the mechanism by which state-dependent learning renders stressful fear-related memories consciously inaccessible.
“The findings show there are multiple pathways to storage of fear-inducing memories, and we identified an important one for fear-related memories,” said principal investigator Dr. Jelena Radulovic, the Dunbar Professor in Bipolar Disease at Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine. “This could eventually lead to new treatments for patients with psychiatric disorders for whom conscious access to their traumatic memories is needed if they are to recover.”
It’s difficult for therapists to help these patients, Radulovic said, because the patients themselves can’t remember their traumatic experiences that are the root cause of their symptoms.
The best way to access the memories in this system is to return the brain to the same state of consciousness as when the memory was encoded, the study showed.
Changing the Brain’s Radio Frequencies
Two amino acids, glutamate and GABA, are the yin and yang of the brain, directing its emotional tides and controlling whether nerve cells are excited or inhibited (calm). Under normal conditions the system is balanced. But when we are hyper-aroused and vigilant, glutamate surges. Glutamate is also the primary chemical that helps store memories in our neuronal networks in a way that they are easy to remember.
GABA, on the other hand, calms us and helps us sleep, blocking the action of the excitable glutamate. The most commonly used tranquilizing drug, benzodiazepine, activates GABA receptors in our brains.
There are two kinds of GABA receptors. One kind, synaptic GABA receptors, works in tandem with glutamate receptors to balance the excitation of the brain in response to external events such as stress.
The other population, extra-synaptic GABA receptors, are independent agents. They ignore the peppy glutamate. Instead, their job is internally focused, adjusting brain waves and mental states according to the levels of internal chemicals, such as GABA, sex hormones and micro RNAs. Extra-synaptic GABA receptors change the brain’s state to make us aroused, sleepy, alert, sedated, inebriated or even psychotic. However, Northwestern scientists discovered another critical role; these receptors also help encode memories of a fear-inducing event and then store them away, hidden from consciousness.
“The brain functions in different states, much like a radio operates at AM and FM frequency bands,” Radulovic said. “It’s as if the brain is normally tuned to FM stations to access memories, but needs to be tuned to AM stations to access subconscious memories. If a traumatic event occurs when these extra-synaptic GABA receptors are activated, the memory of this event cannot be accessed unless these receptors are activated once again, essentially tuning the brain into the AM stations.”
Retrieving Stressful Memories in Mice
In the experiment, scientists infused the hippocampus of mice with gaboxadol, a drug that stimulates extra-synaptic GABA receptors. “It’s like we got them a little inebriated, just enough to change their brain state,” Radulovic said.
Then the mice were put in a box and given a brief, mild electric shock. When the mice were returned to the same box the next day, they moved about freely and weren’t afraid, indicating they didn’t recall the earlier shock in the space. However, when scientists put the mice back on the drug and returned them to the box, they froze, fearfully anticipating another shock.
“This establishes when the mice were returned to the same brain state created by the drug, they remembered the stressful experience of the shock,” Radulovic said.
The experiment showed when the extra-synaptic GABA receptors were activated with the drug, they changed the way the stressful event was encoded. In the drug-induced state, the brain used completely different molecular pathways and neuronal circuits to store the memory.
“It’s an entirely different system even at the genetic and molecular level than the one that encodes normal memories,” said lead study author Vladimir Jovasevic, who worked on the study when he was a postdoctoral fellow in Radulovic’s lab.
This different system is regulated by a small microRNA, miR-33, and may be the brain’s protective mechanism when an experience is overwhelmingly stressful.
The findings imply that in response to traumatic stress, some individuals, instead of activating the glutamate system to store memories, activate the extra-synaptic GABA system and form inaccessible traumatic memories.
Traumatic Memories Rerouted and Hidden Away
Memories are usually stored in distributed brain networks including the cortex, and can thus be readily accessed to consciously remember an event. But when the mice were in a different brain state induced by gaboxadol, the stressful event primarily activated subcortical memory regions of the brain. The drug rerouted the processing of stress-related memories within the brain circuits so that they couldn’t be consciously accessed.
Depressed people often find themselves preoccupied with guilty, shameful, or self-defeating thoughts for large parts of their day. These thoughts not only distract from other activities but also fail to resolve the underlying life issues. Further, the ideas that receive focused attention in these depressive ruminations are frequently quite distorted and lead to distress.
Stanford University sheds light on the brain mechanisms giving rise to these symptoms.
Their work highlights the interplay of a brain region implicated in depression, the subgenual prefrontal cortex (sgPFC) and a brain network involved in reflection, sometimes called the default mode network (DMN). The DMN becomes activated when the brain’s task-oriented circuits are not engaged, i.e., during times of self-referential thought.
By reanalyzing existing studies, Hamilton and colleagues show that depressive ruminations are more likely to emerge in depression when the firing of the sgPFC, signaling depressed mood, is more tightly coordinated with the firing of the DMN. They propose that the observed increased connectivity reflects a functional integration of sgPFC and DMN processes which, in turn, support rumination in depression.
“This study shows that depression distorts a natural process. It would seem that normally the subgenual prefrontal cortex helps to bias the reflective process supported by the default mode network so that we can consider important problems in the service of developing strategies for solving them,” commented Dr. John Krystal, Editor of Biological Psychiatry.
“However, in depression it seems that the subgenual prefrontal cortex runs amok hijacking normal self-reflection in a maladaptive way. This may be one reason that electrical stimulation of the sgPFC is helpful for some patients with severe or treatment-resistant

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Friday, January 17, 2014

Self Esteem part 4

How many cares one loses when one decides not to be something but to be someone. - Coco Chanel

 

I think of life itself now as a wonderful play that I've written for myself, and so my purpose is to have the utmost fun playing my part. - Shirley MacLaine

 

Learn to be what you are, and learn to resign with a good grace all that you are not. - Henri Frederic Amiel

 

The most exhausting thing in life is being insincere. - Anne Morrow Lindbergh

 

Outstanding leaders go out of their way to boost the self-esteem of their personnel. If people believe in themselves, it's amazing what they can accomplish. - Sam Walton

 

You must have control of the authorship of your own destiny. The pen that writes your life story must be held in your own hand. - Irene C. Kassorla

 

A man who doesn't trust himself can never really trust anyone else. - Cardinal De Retz

 

He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away. - Raymond Hull

 

Put all excuses aside and remember this: YOU are capable. - Zig Ziglar

 

It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for something you are not. - Andre Gide

 

We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be. - Kurt Vonnegut

 

One's real life is often the life that one does not lead. - Oscar Wilde

 

Unless I accept my faults I will most certainly doubt my virtues. - Hugh Prather

 

The authentic self is the soul made visible. - Sarah Ban Breathnach

 

Self-respect is the cornerstone of all virtue. - John Herschel

 

Respect for ourselves guides our morals, respect for others guides our manners. - Laurence Sterne

 

Respect yourself if you would have others respect you. - Baltasar Gracian

 

Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in the world. - Helen Keller

 

Self-pity gets you nowhere. One must have the adventurous daring to accept oneself as a bundle of possibilities and undertake the most interesting game in the world making the most of one's best. - Harry Emerson Fosdick

 

Self-respect is the fruit of discipline: the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself. - Abraham Heschel

 

Self-respect permeates every aspect of your life. - Joe Clark

 

Someone's opinion of you does not have to become your reality. - Les Brown

 

Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can. - Richard Bach

 

Do not wish to be anything but what you are, and try to be that perfectly. - St. Francis De Sales

 

It is better to be hated for what you are, than to be loved for something you are not. - Andre Gide

 

To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

The most important opinion you have is the one you have of yourself, and the most significant things you say all day are those things you say to yourself. - Anonymous

 

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. - Eleanor Roosevelt

 

I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence but it comes from within. It is there all the time. - Anna Freud

 

Don't live down to expectations. Go out there and do something remarkable. - Wendy Wasserstein

 

Whether you think you can or think you can't - you are right. - Henry Ford

 

I quit being afraid when my first venture failed and the sky didn't fall down. - Allen H. Neuharth

 

Make the most of yourself, for that is all there is of you. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

If you really put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise your price. - Anonymous

 

Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong. - Peter T. McIntyre

 

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. - Anaïs Nin

 

You have to expect things of yourself before you can do them. - Michael Jordan

 

It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves. - Sir Edmund Hillary

 

Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside of them was superior to circumstance. - Bruce Barton
 

A great deal of talent is lost to the world for want of a little courage. Every day sends to their graves obscure men whose timidity prevented them from making a first effort. - Sydney Smith


These were some of the self-esteem quotes, which I find very inspiring. They do indeed teach you a lot about life in general. I am sure there are many more quotes as well. Along with the quotes staying positive and having faith in one’s ability will also prove to be beneficial.


Negative thoughts just pull you down and make the situation worst for you. So it is always better to think positive and be optimistic. It may not make everything turn out best for you but it will definitely make you feel happy and satisfied. It gives you strength to cope with your problems increasing the level of your confidence.

Many psychologists say that positive thinking has the power to attract good things to us. In fact, what you think is what happens to you. So always wish for good and nice things and they will surely come to you. Affirmations are similar to wishful thinking, they help you believe in yourself and what you stand for. Read further to know more about daily affirmations for self-esteem, as it helps you develop a positive side of your personality.


What are Daily Affirmations?


Daily affirmations are nothing but positive statements that you can say to yourself every day. They can have a great impact on your thought process and help you achieve what you want. They can bring profound transformations in your personal life by overcoming the negative thoughts. They also provide you with lots of motivation and inspiration you would require to reach your destination and achieve all the goals and aims in life.

Daily affirmations can be in the form of statements, keywords or some mantras and symbols that hold special meaning for you. These daily affirmations promote positive thinking and help you build self-esteem.

 There can be a variety of self-affirmations related to different aspects of life, such as success, health, relationships, self-esteem, etc. You can make your daily affirmations on your own using positive statements. But two things you should keep in mind while making your self-affirmations. First, always write affirmations in a positive tone, for example, "I am happy" instead of "I am not sad". Secondly, write affirmations in the present tense, for example, "I am happy" instead of "I will be happy".

Wisely written affirmations work instantaneously for your self-improvement and personal development. This article will provide you with a list of positive daily affirmations for self-esteem, which will bring drastic positive changes in your life.

 

List of Positive Daily Affirmations

 

I have the power to change myself.

I am happy that I got the opportunity to do what I like.

I am using the best of my abilities to improve my life.

I like my job and give my hundred precent to it.

I am confident and organized.

I am open minded and use criticism for self-improvement.

I am happy in every situation, even in stressful moments.

I deserve to be successful.

I deserve to be happy.

I deserve to be loved.

I learn from my mistakes.

I am happy to take challenges and risks in life.

I have the knowledge and skills to make my work the best.

I have the decision power and I make right choices.

I think for myself and have my own choice in all aspects of life.

I believe in goodness of life.

I can forgive myself and others too.

I can understand other people and their motives.

I feel proud of myself and my loved ones.

 

The above daily positive affirmations will help you increase your self-esteem and happiness. Write down the affirmations on a piece of paper and read them in mind or aloud every day. Repeat the affirmations at regular intervals during the day.

You can also stick the affirmations where it can be easily visible, such as dressing table, study table, soft board of your cubicle, etc. It will keep you surrounded by the positive thought all the time. For improving self-esteem, whenever you feel low or the negative thoughts are about strike you, read the affirmations aloud and keep the pessimism away from you.
 

Daily affirmations for self-esteem program your subconscious in a way that it removes all the negative ideas from there, making you a natural positive thinker. According to law of attraction, affirmations create positive vibes around you and attract only what you want in life. All you have to do is believe in what you want and repeat it with conviction, attention, interest, and desire and I am sure you will create your own world the way you want it.

 

'I feel low.....'

'Why do I hesitate to speak what I feel like.....'

'I think, I am not that pretty.....'

 

.....and there goes a list of woes of a person who is unhappy with who he is, what he is and with the conditions that make him the most miserable person under the sun. One word gives a gist for the above lines and that is a low self-esteem.

The traits exhibited by a person, solely depends on the levels of his self-esteem, which is an important aspect of a growing personality. Or should I say, it is one unparalleled quality which could make or break a person. In short, it is a feeling that makes you comprehend the dignity and importance of you being you.

A low self-esteem is worse than an instant death as it makes you feel wretched and gross, further blinding you against the greener pastures of life, which could have been visible only if the self-esteem level was high. So let's discuss some self-esteem activities which would help you evaluate yourself! So ready for a self-esteem test? But here, you go with some self-esteem building activities first!

 
Self Esteem Activities

Self-esteem is a feeling that comes with confidence, and more with love for self. Or let me put it this way, self-esteem adds 'life' to your otherwise mundane life! Here, let me share some interesting building self-esteem activities, which did make a big difference for me! Trust me, after implementing the below tips on how to improve self-esteem, you will rediscover yourself. Be assured that the new 'you' will be more confident, more stable and more focused in life! But before, you proceed for a self-esteem test, read the activities below! May be the results of the self-esteem test taken, will bring a smile on your face!

 

Learn to laugh at yourself.....

The first step to overcome low self-esteem is learning to laugh at oneself. By this statement, I do not mean laughing literally, but in the sense that, learn to accept a situation in life with a smile, by first calculating the positive outcome of the given state of affairs. Here, let me share a hypothetical example: You are walking down a lane, and a banana peel on road successfully eludes your sight and you unsuccessfully slip over and fall flat on your face.. I know, it is a very embarrassing situation. But can something that is by gone be undone? No! So now, what are your possible reactions to this situation?

1.You sit there with your face down, wait for someone to come and help you.

2.You get up, look around to see if anyone caught you in that awkward pose, and walk away with a frightened expression with your eyes almost popping out.

3.You just get up, dust yourself, throw the peel into the dustbin, smile at yourself and walk off!

Now, the first point says, your self-esteem is low and it is so low that you are unable to grab the situation by neck and face it!

The second reaction indicates, there is a fear in you, fear of having been caught in such a sticky condition, where the crowd that may (or may not) have watched you, may (or may not) have giggled and there may have been people whom you knew and who might have aired your anecdote to the world! (I must say, being apprehensive is normal, but an apprehension anticipating things which possibly may not even happen is absolutely dopey!)

The third reaction is one, which exhibits the trait of a person with a good self-esteem! Now let me explain! The person (which here, is you) in the third case, has possibly understood, that nothing could avert what happened. He has also understood the fact that the situation can be avoided in future, if it has a chance of recurring. 

The smile here is what I call as laughing at one's own mistakes. Why I call this as a boosting up of self-esteem, is because such accidents in life speak volumes of philosophy. It implies, "Nothing abnormal has occurred. Today, it was you, tomorrow it could be someone else! Throw the incident into your baggage of the past, unmount it not without imbibing the lessons learnt and move on!".

 
Activity

To make this an activity, make a group with your peers, friends and kin, and help everyone narrate the funny, embarrassing, sad, happy, traumatic incidents of their lives. The first person always feels the heat of the situation, but gradually when the crowd joins him, he will be able to overcome his inferiority complex symptoms and will understand that he is not the only one, after all! As  the best thing is, you along with the crowd will laugh, cry, empathize and then feel the importance of the smile that follows that no situation in life is too embarrassing to trouble your self-esteem all lifelong!

 

Engage yourself in a world beyond academics.....

Someone has rightly said, "When you dance, forget there is an audience and forget there is a podium and just dance like you never did before!". When you do this, you will automatically feel an aura of high energy engulfing you, which in turn boosts your confidence levels.

If you are in school or in college, or even in a job, ensure that you participate in all activities, which can include dance, music, painting, debating etc.., no matter how much poorly you perform and believe me, there will be some activity which will make you discover your passion and tempt you to chase it!

 Activity

Enrol yourself in singing or dance competitions, or may be if you like painting, you may attempt one. Trust me, you will have a reason to be happy and proud, which at one time may not have been a part of your emotions. This is one of the best means of how to boost self-esteem.

 

Speech is your birth right! Use it!

I would say, of all the senses, speech is one aspect which portrays the real you in the crowd! Many times, failing to speak, to ask what one feels like, becomes a root reason for a low self-esteem, which further churns the feeling of fear and shame.

Well, there is absolutely no harm in speaking your mind out! For instance, you are attending a lecture and you do not understand a point, the best thing for you to do is, to get up, shoot your query and get your answer. It does not matter, if people giggle at your ignorance but what matters is, you get what you want and may be a few more people like you get the piece of knowledge they may have been missed otherwise.

Activity

Participate in debate competitions and extempore. The first time will be gruelling to face a crowd and talk to them. But trust me; this is one of the most effective ways on how to raise your self-esteem and confidence.

 Melt in the crowd.....

Socializing is the best way for improving self-esteem. Meeting new people will help you broaden your perception about people. Let's say, it will help an ignorant frog in a well to take a big leap into the ocean! Attending technical workshops and personality building programs are some of the best ways to be a part of the crowd, you never knew!

 Activity

Try compering! This may not be everyone's cup of tea, but there is no harm in trying it either! When you host a show, you get to see the maximum number of people in different moods and it gives a feeling 'on the top of the world', when you come to realize that you can actually control the atmosphere of the crowd you are facing.

 
Say to you 'I am the best'

Last but not the least, love thyself! A beautiful life, a strong body and a mind to keep both in sync, is a gift from nature. Value it! As soon as you get up in the morning, the first person you meet is you! Smile at your mirror image and the other look alike smiles back at you! Speak out 'Rise and shine! Today, it is a beautiful day!'. This is one of the best daily affirmations for self-esteem. It is said, positive thinking is like a booster for self-esteem. Practice this self-motivation technique every day and your self-esteem will grow in leaps and bounds!

 Activity

Pamper yourself! Eat healthy food, drink a lot of water and wear clean clothes. Help the needy and at least make three people laugh a day! Not only will you love yourself more, your enhanced self-esteem will help you look at the brighter side of life, of course with its shades of grey!

 

Test Your Self Esteem

 

Now here is a small self-esteem test for you! You do not have to give me answers, but try to assess yourself with the answers you decide and you will come to know whether you need to work or not on your self-esteem level.

•Do you always procrastinate?

•Do you feel ashamed of who you are and what you are?

•Are you always afraid of what the world thinks of you?

•Do you blame yourself for all the Pandora boxes that come unwarmed?

•Do you think, the whole world has some personal vendetta against you?

•Are you quite dependent on people to dictate your tasks and schedule?

•Are you afraid to speak the right thing at the right time?

•Do you think you are not very attractive?

•Do you predict that, something that is in store for you is never going to be good?

•Do you love yourself?

These answers will help you understand whether or not you have passed this self-esteem test! Building self-esteem in children is very important, and must be done right from a tender age. Schools and colleges must make every child participate in maximum extracurricular activities to help them explore their hidden talents.

Workplaces should have a lot of team building activities for their employees to help them overcome their unknown fears. I hope, this article has helped you evaluate your self-esteem levels, if not great, but a little bit!

 
The term 'self-esteem' is defined in many ways, and as we summarize the definitions, it can be said that, self-esteem is nothing but the way you think about yourself. Higher the degree of belief in yourself, higher is the self-esteem. Often, the word self-confidence is confused with self-esteem.

According to Nathaniel Brandon, a psychotherapist and well-known writer from Canada, self-esteem is defined as the experience of being competent to cope with the basic challenges of life and being worthy of happiness.

 

Building Self Esteem

It is not that difficult to build self-esteem. All it takes is conditioning of the mind. After all, our mind plays an important role in self-development. Of course, there are external factors which affect our lives, but a healthy mind is able to build up self-esteem much faster. Listening to your heart is important. The crux of the idea of 'listening to your heart', is to do what you really want to do. It helps you realize your desires and goals in life. Trying to please everyone around, proves to be a barrier in your quest to build self-esteem.

 
Get rid of the hustle and bustle of life and spend some time in silence every day. It helps you settle down and develop your inner strength. Come out of the negative thoughts as they only make you weak. Don't be too critical about your actions. Constantly challenging yourself is one way of enhancing self-esteem. It helps break the mental barriers which we create around ourselves, knowingly or unknowingly.