The unlimited posibility to assist Entertainment and the People within Entertainment

Thank you for opening this email and thank you for taking your time to read this.
This is some of the information which I wanted to share with you.. This is a real thing..
A foundation which will be self sufficient when it it in complete running.

It will have a Australian and International Memorials which acknowledges and recognises all those who made Entertainment life and completed and did things which were also behind the scenes.
I am after support and sponsors as well as advertisers. This is part for history and part a complete support network. To empower and build strong relationships to empower the people and their lives. Assisting them to unlimited possibilities.

 I do have a passion for this.. I just assist them. Giving choices and options that could enhance and empower their lives.. I have a few things which go along side of this and I am showing that these things are need to be addressed and I have been working on the ways to improve things.
You are a member of Parliament or a person of influence and  which at each time I have been put on the side.

This time I am announcing to various members as this is important and within your own publicity you use the Entertainment as an tool, for getting things over to the public. Though the government bodies, charities and cooperation's, there have been sampling surveys.

What research I have done into your research and who me you get to do research varies. I have been informed that you rely on different businesses to do this and in so knowing that I contacted different business who do surveys and asked what is their max  and min panels.

To my astonishment it is nothing like the one I have done with Entertainment. My total population panel is 89,201 which is pure Entertainment Based..

What panels and areas which were done with professional recognised sources for your panels are no more that 7 thousand at most and only by chance of closed questions. Found out by Dr Lawrence Hulse and Dr Kate Neville that My survey is one which could never be repeated by people without a lot of funds to spare.

I did this by actually talking and communicating with people and respecting their thoughts and ideas. The research I have done had normal questions which were closed: Name: Age: Location: Area: Profession: How many days worked as a artist: etc.

The majority were open questions and were noted to other areas: Health: Welfare: Status: Family: Issues which mean something to the person: etc. I sent some of my findings to the government departments for funding but was knocked back for not being one part only or not enough information for another part or mostly no believed as a serious event/gig/ problem.

 I wanted a yearly festival to raise awareness of people within the Entertainment Industry that require support and acknowledgement. Four years I have sort out funding for a festival, a seminar or a conference. Only to notice that my ideas are being used by others, as the sharing of those ideas was used since 2004.

 I am now keeping most of my information until I get a  confidentially contract signed and witnessed.

 I am a female, with a disability, living on hard times when all money goes to rent now as prices of rent are high . That is my problem..

The following is something which thousands of people in Entertainment who are dealing with. I want to now fully establish a foundation for these people. I might not fit the bill many of your requirements.  .. Please keep reading the following...

I might have been nominated for Australian of the Year a Few times. I might have sent over 102 thousand educational books to the Pacific Region, which has now been taken over by Rotary in 2007..

I am asking you now to believe in something much bigger ..  The Stats were done with 80,000 Entertainment artists and people who work in the Industry over 8 years of research by myself and then there was references from the Medical records and Australian statistics. The research standards were with person to person, phone calls  and emails between these people who are amongst many varied levels within the entertainment Industry.

No one wanted to take on such a task or support any of the research so I did it with all standards in place.. there is more information with my research, but  at this point, I only pulled out the Health issues and some other which are of interest..This was broken down for my interest and knowledge of the Whole Entertainment Industry.

From the back stage, recording, media, medical, etc... So my findings are mine and no one else has supported any of my research others than those who were participated..

They were all in confidential model and there is confidentiality agreements set up so no one could discuss any of this out side of my copyright and IP. As also I was given those who taken the surveys, a confidential agreement that They would allow me to do this by holding their confidentiality in place.

As I am not a recognised researcher I kept all this on confidentiality agreements.. As many of the questions were hitting hard and personal areas of people who are in the entertainment Industry..  As you can understand there is quiet a lot of research and paperwork which was followed through to the letter to give privacy and respect to those who would confide in this research.  And it did take over 8 years just to break into it and the some break down..

My research was for personal reasons and was upheld with total confidentiality and respect for the people who work in the industry and their families.. I do not hand out any of my information without complete confidentiality.

As I use within my area and to gain support and sponsors for areas. As For Support Act, I have been on contact with Lindy, and the responses was that they would like me to be more standing and more out there before they would consider acknowledging what I am about.. So, I am announcing and showing this is not a fly by night thing and that I have done research and fully started the foundations for this project which is of many layers. It may sound soupy and not as business like as most require.

There is business plans for each are which are now completed, communications strategies which are now completed, Advertising strategies which are now placed. Legal strategies and templates available for people who require that resource.

There are 15 counsellors who will be available when needed, they will give their time if I can get Insurance.

There are recording resources being established, movie productions resources being established. There are support networks coming into place and other sources for this to start up ..
The only thing now which is required is monetary resources.. and other networks to link up, if the wish to do so.

The domain names are owned by me and the logo and copyrights are there and expanding.  I am only, one woman, I have taken the steps to re educate myself and to establish this. I have been connected with International Entertainment Industries and expanding the networking for people.
I place all my own time and funds into this..
I have not done this without ups and downs.  I even went back to Tafe and Taken more steps to keep my skills up to date..

I have now gained more information than most and still cannot qualify for and grant as no one takes this seriously.

This is not an assisting project it is so much more and it is recognising people who never get a second look.. as well as the ones who pull in the names..
There was a Cd for cancer and heart being produced by some of these people who care.. Also they have signed contracts etc...

There are people who are waiting to assist on this.. the funds are the requirement.. I am announcing and asking for help now..

Many people in Entertainment are us for charities and slogans, they give their time and resources. Many have private problems themselves and need assisting themselves. Music which they create, movies which they participate in for great and awesome projects, they give up their time to do and with sacrifice of their families. These wonderful people also have needs and personal assistance. This is my project to assist them.. although I have been working on it for ten years. Many government bodies have used certain parts of my IP for their  gains.. as all the people/ companies have used parts of it for their gains.. yes.. they now claim parts as their  ideas.. I started this project in 2002..

Not for me but to get this up and running, as I cannot assist everyone on a one to one basis any longer.. 27 funerals last year alone.. this year I just could not do that again....
There is a great need for all resources to be pulled together within the Industry... I mean all levels..  If I have to keep learning different things I will...

How can I learn more to assist you to take the next step? I attached my education records for your interests.
Please, I welcome all feed back..
Thank you..
Sonia F Stevens

 PS.. I did not sit by and kept wondering why things cannot change.. I went back to school and to learn. I did not stop living like most people when they face challenges.. I do sometimes have bad days, but then afterwards I get up, dust off and keep going.. I do know what if feels like to have nothing, to be harmed, etc... I did not turn to drugs or stayed quiet. I have had a lot of physical pain, then again I care for people who are trying to do the best that they can with what they have and given.

 PPS. This was a letter which was sent to every governing body and company in Australia in 2006, 2008 and 2009. Just thought you should know.

Presious Dreams

Our dreams combine verbal, visual and emotional stimuli into a sometimes broken, nonsensical but often entertaining story line. We can sometimes even solve problems in our sleep. Or can we? Many experts disagree on exactly what the purpose of our dreams might be. Are they strictly random brain impulses, or are our brains actually working through issues from our daily life while we sleep -- as a sort of coping mechanism? Should we even bother to interpret our dreams? Many say yes, that we have a great deal to learn from our dreams.

In this article, we'll talk about the major dream theories, from Freud's view to the hypotheses that claim we can control our dreams. We'll find out what scientists say is happening in our brains when we dream and why we have trouble remembering these night-time story lines. We'll talk about how you can try to control your dreams -- both what you're dreaming about and what you do once you're having the dream. We'll also find out what dream experts say particular scenarios signify. Finding yourself at work naked may not mean at all what you think it does!

For centuries, we've tried to figure out just why our brains play these nightly shows for us. Early civilizations thought dream worlds were real, physical worlds that they could enter only from their dream state. Researchers continue to toss around many theories about dreaming. Those theories essentially fall into two categories:

• The idea that dreams are only physiological stimulations
• The idea that dreams are psychologically necessary

Let's take a closer look at these theories.

Physiological theories are based on the idea that we dream in order to exercise various neural connections that some researchers believe affect certain types of learning. Psychological theories are based on the idea that dreaming allows us to sort through problems, events of the day or things that are requiring a lot of our attention. Some of these theorists think dreams might be prophetic. Many researchers and scientists also believe that perhaps it is a combination of the two theories. In the next section, we'll look at some of the major dream theorists and what they say about why we dream.

Dream Theories

First and foremost in dream theory is Sigmund Freud. Falling into the psychological camp, Dr. Freud's theories are based on the idea of repressed longing -- the desires that we aren't able to express in a social setting. Dreams allow the unconscious mind to act out those unacceptable thoughts and desires. For this reason, his theory about dreams focuses primarily on sexual desires and symbolism. For example, any cylindrical object in a dream represents the penis, while a cave or an enclosed object with an opening represents the vagina. Therefore, to dream of a train entering a tunnel would represent sexual intercourse. According to Freud, this dream indicates a suppressed longing for sex. Freud lived during the sexually repressed Victorian era, which in some way explains his focus. Still, he did once comment that, "Sometimes, a cigar is just a cigar."

Carl Jung studied under Freud but soon decided his own ideas differed from Freud's to the extent that he needed to go in his own direction. He agreed with the psychological origin of dreams, but rather than saying that dreams originated from our primal needs and repressed wishes, he felt that dreams allowed us to reflect on our waking selves and solve our problems or think through issues.

­More recently, around 1973, researchers Allan Hobson and Robert McCarley set forth another theory that threw out the old psychoanalytical ideas. Their research on what was going in the brain during sleep gave them the idea that dreams were simply the result of random electrical brain impulses that pulled imagery from traces of experience stored in the memory. They hypothesize that these images don't form the stories that we remember as our dreams. Instead, our waking minds, in trying to make sense of the imagery, create the stories without our even realizing it -- simply because the brain wants to make sense of what it has experienced. While this theory, known as the activation-synthesis hypothesis, created a big rift in the dream research arena because of its leap away from the accepted theories, it has withstood the test of time and is still one of the more prominent dream theories.

Let's look a little deeper into what actually happens in the brain when we dream.

Dream PhilosophiesAccording to Nietzsche, "In the ages of the rude beginning of culture, man believed that he was discovering a second real world in dream, and here is the origin of all metaphysics. Without dreams, mankind would never have had occasion to invent such a division of the world. The parting of soul and body goes also with this way of interpreting dreams; likewise, the idea of a soul's apparitional body: whence all belief in ghosts, and apparently, too, in gods."

Dreaming and the Brain

When we sleep, we go through five sleep stages. The first stage is a very light sleep from which it is easy to wake up. The second stage moves into a slightly deeper sleep, and stages three and four represent our deepest sleep. Our brain activity throughout these stages is gradually slowing down so that by deep sleep, we experience nothing but delta brain waves -- the slowest brain waves (see "Brain Waves" sidebar). About 90 minutes after we go to sleep and after the fourth sleep stage, we begin REM sleep.

Rapid eye movement (REM) was discovered in 1953 by University of Chicago researchers Eugene Aserinsky, a graduate student in physiology, and Nathaniel Kleitman, Ph.D., chair of physiology. REM sleep is primarily characterized by movements of the eyes and is the fifth stage of sleep.

­During REM sleep, several physiological changes also take place. The heart rate and breathing quickens, the blood pressure rises, we can't regulate our body temperature as well and our brain activity increases to the same level (alpha) as when we are awake, or even higher. The rest of the body, however, is essentially paralyzed until we leave REM sleep. This paralysis is caused by the release of glycine, an amino acid, from the brain stem onto the moto neurons (neurons that conduct impulses outward from the brain or spinal cord). Because REM sleep is the sleep stage at which most dreaming takes place, this paralysis could be nature's way of making sure we don't act out our dreams. Otherwise, if you're sleeping next to someone who is dreaming about playing kickball, you might get kicked repeatedly while you sleep.

The four stages outside of REM sleep are called non-REM sleep (NREM). Although most dreams do take place during REM sleep, more recent research has shown that dreams can occur during any of the sleep stages. Tore A. Nielsen, Ph.D., of the Dream and Nightmare Laboratory in Montreal, refers to this as "covert REM sleep" making an appearance during NREM sleep. Most NREM dreams, however, don't have the intensity of REM dreams.

Throughout the night, we go through these five stages several times. Each subsequent cycle, however, includes more REM sleep and less deep sleep (stage three and four). By morning, we're having almost all stage one, two and five (REM) sleep.

Let's look at what happens if you don't get any REM sleep.

Brain WavesOur brains cycle through four types of brain waves, referred to as delta, theta, alpha and beta. Each type of brain wave represents a different speed of oscillating electrical voltages in the brain. Delta is the slowest (zero to four cycles per second) and is present in deep sleep. Theta (four to seven cycles per second) is present in stage one when we're in light sleep. Alpha waves, operating at eight to 13 cycles per second, occur during REM sleep (as well as when we are awake). And beta waves, which represent the fastest cycles at 13 to 40 per second, are usually only seen in very stressful situations or situations that require very strong mental concentration and focus. These four brain waves make up the electroencephalogram (EEG).

Dreams and REM Sleep

­What happens if you don't get any REM sleep? Originally, researchers thought that no REM sleep meant no dreams. They theorized that dreams were a sort of safety valve that helped your brain let off steam that you couldn't let off during the day. William Dement, MD, now at Stanford University School of Medicine, did a study in 1960 in which subjects were awakened every time they entered REM sleep. His findings included mild psychological disturbances such as anxiety, irritability and difficulty concentrating. He also noted an increase in appetite. While some studies backed up these ideas, more and more studies did not.

Additional studies tried to make a connection between difficulty remembering things and lack of REM sleep, but those studies too have been disproven with more research. An indisputable snag in the loss-of-memory-function theory was a man who had experienced a brain injury that resulted in him experiencing no REM sleep. He completed law school and had no problems in his day-to-day life.

The latest ideas on REM sleep are associated with learning. Researchers are trying to determine the effects that REM sleep and the lack of REM sleep have on learning certain types of skills -- usually physical skills rather than rote memory. This connection seems strong in some respects due to the fact that infants and toddlers experience much more REM sleep than adults.

Dream Recall

It is said that five minutes after the end of a dream, we have forgotten 50 percent of the dream's content. Ten minutes later, we've forgotten 90 percent of its content. Why is that? We don't forget our daily actions that quickly. The fact that they are so hard to remember makes their importance seem less.

Theories

Freud theorized that we forget our dreams because they contain our repressed thoughts and wishes and so we shouldn't want to remember them anyway. Other research points to the simple reason that other things get in the way. We are forward-thinking by nature, so remembering something when we first wake up is difficult.

L. Strumpell, a dream researcher of the same era as Freud, believed that several things contribute to our not being able to remember dreams. For one, he said that many things are quickly forgotten when you first wake up, such as physical sensations. He also considered the fact that many dream images are not very intense and would therefore be easy to forget. Another reason, and probably the strongest of his theories, is that we traditionally learn and remember both by association and repetition. As dreams are usually unique and somewhat vague to begin with, it stands to reason that remembering them could be difficult. For example, if someone speaks a phrase to you that doesn't immediately click with anything in your experience, you might need the person to repeat it in order to remember it or even understand it. Since we can't go back to our dreams to experience something again, details that are out of our realm of experience often escape us.

How to Improve Your Dream Recall.

There are many resources both on the Web and in print that will give you tips on how to improve your recall of dreams. Those who believe we have a lot to learn about ourselves from our dreams are big proponents of dream journals. Here are some steps you can take to increase your dream recall:

• When you go to bed, tell yourself you will remember your dreams. (Author's note: In researching this article, I found that thinking about dreams before I fell asleep actually made me remember having them, so this step did work in my experience.)
• Set your alarm to go off every hour and half so you'll wake up around the times that you leave REM sleep -- when you're most likely to remember your dreams. (Or, drink a lot of water before you go to bed to ensure you have to wake up at least once in the middle of the night!)
• Keep a pad and pencil next to your bed.
• Try to wake up slowly to remain within the "mood" of your last dream

Lucid Dreaming

There is a lot of research being done in dream control, particularly in the areas of lucid dreaming and dream incubation. Lucid dreaming is a learned skill and occurs when you are dreaming, you realize you are dreaming and you are able to then control what happens in your dream -- all while you're still asleep.

Being able to control your dreams would be a very cool thing to be able to do, but it is a difficult skill that usually takes special training. It is estimated that fewer than 100,000 people in the United States have the ability to have lucid dreams.

Although lucid dreaming is mentioned throughout history, it was not until 1959 at Johann Wolfgang Goethe University that an effective technique for inducing lucid dreams was developed, and true research into the phenomenon began taking place. In 1989, Paul Tholey, a German dream researcher who had been involved in the research at that university, wrote a paper about a technique he was studying to induce lucid dreams. It was called the reflection technique, and it involved asking yourself throughout the day if you were awake or dreaming. More research has indicated the need to practice recognizing odd occurrences, or dream signs, that would be a sign that "this is a dream" rather than reality.

Stephen LaBerge of Stanford University, founder of The Lucidity Institute, Lynne Levitan and other current dream researchers have studied lucid dreaming techniques extensively. They refer to a technique similar to Tholey's reflection method that they call "reality testing." This technique and one called MILD (Mnemonic Induction of Lucid Dreams) have been among the most successful techniques for lucid dreaming.

The MILD technique involves similar reminders to the reality testing method but focuses those reminders at night rather than throughout the day and night. MILD begins with telling yourself when you go to bed that you'll remember your dreams. You then focus your attention on recognizing when you are dreaming and remembering that it is a dream. Then, you focus on reentering a recent dream and looking for clues that it is indeed a dream. You imagine what you would like to do within that dream. For example, you may want to fly, so you imagine yourself flying within that dream. You repeat these last two steps (recognizing when you're dreaming and reentering a dream) until you go to sleep. Using this technique, Dr. LaBerge has been able to have lucid dreams at will. Because this type of technique takes such mental training, however, LaBerge is now doing research using external stimuli to induce lucid dreams.

While lucid dreaming may just seem like a cool way to enter fantasy land, it also has several applications outside of recreation. According to LaBerge, for instance, lucid dreaming can help in personal development, enhancing self-confidence, overcoming nightmares, improving mental (and perhaps physical) health and facilitating creative problem solving. LaBerge also states on the Lucidity Web site:

"Lucid dreaming could provide the handicapped and other disadvantaged people with the nearest thing to fulfilling their impossible dreams: paralytics could walk again in their dreams, to say nothing of dancing and flying, and even experience emotionally satisfying erotic fantasies. Such sensorimotor practice could conceivably facilitate recovery from stroke."

Finally, lucid dreaming can function as a "world simulator." Just as a flight simulator allows people to learn to fly in a safe environment, lucid dreaming could allow people to  learn to live in any imaginable world; to experience and better choose among various possible futures.

Dream Incubation

Dream incubation is learning to plant a seed for a specific dream topic to occur. For example, you might go to bed repeating to yourself that you'll dream about a presentation you have coming up or a vacation you just took. Those who believe in problem solving through dreams use this technique to direct their dreams to the specific topic.

While somewhat similar to lucid dreaming in that problems can be solved, dream incubation is simply focusing attention on a specific issue when going to sleep. Several studies have shown this method to be successful over a period of time. For example, in a study at Harvard Medical School, Dr. Diedre Barrett had her students focus on a problem before going to sleep and found that it was certainly possible to come up with novel solutions in dreams that are both personally satisfying and reasonable to an outside observer. In her studies, two-thirds of participants had dreams that addressed their chosen problem, while one-third actually came up with solutions in their dreams.

Creativity and Inventions That Came from Dreams

Throughout history, inventors, writers, artists and scientists have solved problems in their dreams.

• Kekule, the German chemist who discovered the structure of the benzene molecule, had worked endlessly to figure it out. Then, in a dream, he saw snakes forming circles with their tails in their mouths. When he awoke, he realized that the benzene molecule, unlike all other known organic compounds, had a circular structure rather than a linear one.
• The inventor of the sewing machine, Elias Howe, had struggled in 1884 to figure out how the needle could work in a machine for sewing. In a dream, he found himself surrounded by native tribesmen with spears that had a hole in the point. When he woke up, he realized that a needle with a hole in the point would solve his problem.
• Mary Shelly, author of "Frankenstein," got the idea for the story from a dream.
• Edgar Allen Poe got inspiration from a dream featuring large luminous eyes for his story, "Lady Ligea."
• Many musicians, including Paul McCartney, Billy Joel and Beethoven, have found inspiration for their music from their dreams. Some hear musical arrangements in their dreams, while others hear lyrics.
• Golfer Jack Nicklaus found a new way to hold his golf club in a dream, which he credits as significantly improving his golf game.

What do our dreams mean?

Those on the physiology side of the "why we ream" argument see dreams as only nonsense that the brain creates from fragments of images and memory. For centuries, however, people have looked at their dreams as both omens and insights into their own psyches. Many think dreams are full of symbolic messages that may not be clear to us on the surface. But, if we dig deeper and think about what is going on in our lives, we can usually come up with an interpretation that makes sense. Let's look at the most common dream themes and how dream experts interpret them.

Common Dream Themes and Their Interpretations Being naked in public Most of us have had the dream at some point that we're at school, work or some social event, and we suddenly realize we forgot to put on clothes! Experts say this means:

• We're trying to hide something (and without clothes we have a hard time doing that).
• We're not prepared for something, like a presentation or test (and now everyone is going to know -- we're exposed!).

If we're naked but no one notices, then the interpretation is that whatever we're afraid of is unfounded. If we don't care that we're naked, the interpretation is that we're comfortable with who we are.

Falling

You're falling, falling, falling... and then you wake up. This is a very common dream and is said to symbolize insecurities and anxiety. Something in your life is essentially out of control and there is nothing you can do to stop it. Another interpretation is that you have a sense of failure about something. Maybe you're not doing well in school or at work and are afraid you're going to be fired or expelled. Again, you feel that you can't control the situation. 

Being chased

The ever-popular chase dream can be extremely frightening. What it usually symbolizes is that you're running away from your problems. What that problem is depends on who is chasing you. It may be a problem at work, or it may be something about yourself that you know is destructive. For example, you may be drinking too much, and your dream may be telling you that your drinking is becoming a real problem.

Taking an exam (or forgetting that you have one)

This is another very common dream. You suddenly realize you are supposed to be taking an exam at that very moment. You might be running through the hallways and can't find the classroom. This type of dream can have several variations that have similar meanings. (Maybe your pen won't write, so you can't finish writing your answers.) What experts say this may mean is that you're being scrutinized about something or feel you're being tested -- maybe you're facing a challenge you don't think you're up to. You don't feel prepared or able to hold up to the scrutiny. It may also mean there is something you've neglected that you know needs your attention.

Flying

Many flying dreams are the result of lucid dreaming. Not all flying dreams are, however. Typically, dreaming that you are flying means you are on top of things. You are in control of the things that matter to you. Or, maybe you've just gained a new perspective on things. It may also mean you are strong willed and feel like no one and nothing can defeat you. If you are having problems maintaining your flight, someone or something may be standing in the way of you having control. If you are afraid while flying, you may have challenges that you don't feel up to. 

Running, but going nowhere

This theme can also be part of the chasing dream. You're trying to run, but either your legs won't move or you simply aren't going anywhere -- as if you were on a treadmill. According to some, this dream means you have too much on your plate. You're trying to do too many things at once and can't catch up or ever get ahead.

Your teeth falling out

Many people have dreams that they lose all of their teeth. In this dream, they may feel something strange in their mouth and then spit teeth into their hand, eventually losing all of their teeth. According to some, our teeth are related to our sense of power and our ability to communicate. Losing our teeth not only makes us embarrassed by our appearance, which hinders our communications, but it also lessens our power because we may not speak our minds. It's also associated with feelings about our appearance.

Recurring Dreams and Nightmares

Many people have the same or a similar dream many times, over either a short period of time or their lifetime. Recurring dreams usually mean there is something in your life you've not acknowledged that is causing stress of some sort. The dream repeats because you have not corrected the problem. Another theory is that people who experience recurring dreams have some sort of trauma in their past they are trying to deal with. In this case, the dreams tend to lessen with time.

Nightmares are dreams that are so distressing they usually wake us up, at least partially. Nightmares can occur at any age but are seen in children with the most frequency. Nightmares usually cause strong feelings of fear, sadness or anxiety. Their causes are varied. Some medications cause nightmares (or cause them if you discontinue the medication abruptly). Traumatic events also cause nightmares.

Treatment for recurring nightmares usually starts with interpreting what is going on in the dream and comparing that with what is happening in the person's life. Then, the person undergoes counseling to address the problems that are presumably causing the nightmare. Some sleep centers offer nightmare therapy and counseling. Another method of treating nightmares is through lucid dreaming. Through lucid dreaming, the dreamer can confront his or her attacker and, in some cases, end the nightmares.

Premonitions in Dreams

The science of dreams is obviously not a clear-cut one. While many believe our dreams mean something, there are also many who don't. But what about dreams that have foretold future events? Has this simply been coincidence? Below are some examples of dreams that have reportedly done just that.

• In "Lucid Dreaming," Stephen LaBerge reports that a man took his small son camping near a lake in a small valley near their home. He took the son to the water's edge to take a bath but realized he had forgotten the soap. He left the boy standing by the edge of the water and saw him picking up pebbles and throwing them into the water. When he returned with the soap, his son was lying face down in the water, dead. The man awoke and immediately realized this was only a dream. A while after that, some friends invited him and his son to go camping. Although it didn't occur to him immediately, the setting was similar to the setting he had seen in his dream. At one point during the camping trip, he took his son to the lake to take a bath but realized he had forgotten the soap. He sat the boy down and was leaving to get the soap when he saw the boy reach down and pick up pebbles to throw into the water. His dream immediately jumped into his head, and he snatched the boy up and took him with him.
• There is an investment group made up of people who have precognitive dreams about stocks. Phenomena Magazine: Precognitive Stock Market Dreamers (November 1, 2004) reports that Dr. Arthur Bernard, a psychologist who teaches dreamwork and a member of the group, had a very successful experience. He had a recurring dream about an obscure biotech stock called ICOS. In the dream, he saw the stock suddenly explode in value. Because of the intensity of the dream, he felt sure that this dream was precognitive. He bought about 40,000 shares of ICOS at $4 per share. He sold his shares in 1998 at $28 each, amounting to an approximate $1.6 million profit.
• Science Frontiers Online: Precognitive Dreams (Nov-Dec 1998) reports that M.S. Stowell, in her doctoral dissertation, interviewed several people who claimed to have precognitive dreams. Of 51 presumed precognitive dreams, Stowell was able to prove that 37 had indeed come true. One report from a woman named Elizabeth told of a dream about a plane crashing on a highway near an overpass. Elizabeth was driving her car on that highway at the time and could see that the plane was going to crash there as she drove under the overpass. In her dream, she just escaped the plane. Within a few weeks, a plane crashed on the highway she had dreamt about.
• Ongoing Dream Research and TherapyResearch in various areas of dreaming is ongoing, particularly in the areas of REM sleep and lucidity. One study in lucid dreaming involves trying to get the dreamer to communicate with observers while he or she is dreaming. Stephen LaBerge, who is at the forefront of lucid dreaming research, has successfully achieved communication through eye movements, but of course this type of communication is very limited. His ongoing work involves dreamers wearing a glove that incorporates movement sensors to record hand movements during sleep. By using sign language, they hope be able to get reports of dreams as they are occurring.
  One day, perhaps we'll all be able to control. 
• Every person on earth dreams pretty much every night, and evidence suggests that all mammals dream also. It follows then that something extremely important must be going on while we sleep and dream, yet in the industrialized world, the majority of people pay little attention to dreams, lucid dreams and dream interpretation, and sometimes even shortchange themselves on sleep because it is perceived as lost time, or at best unproductive.
  How astonishing that we generally ignore this third (and possibly far more) of ourselves - our dreams. An appropriate analogy to the grandeur of this mass misunderstanding is the incredible inertia in the middle ages against the idea of earth being other than flat until repeated point-blank evidence like Galileo’s observation of other planets and their moons as well as the journeys of Columbus and other explorers across the ocean proved conclusively otherwise. The challenge was that people’s everyday experience contradicted the idea of a spherical earth because nobody had yet gained perspective from outside of the system in order to interpret their experience from a larger view point. Airplanes and especially photographs from space were not yet available, so there was little first hand evidence of a new understanding that was a great leap beyond the old interpretation. Fortunately, with continuing research and analysis, proper understanding grew, and people eventually began to come around to an alternative view. The shift in understanding triggered an ensuing surge of exploration as the realization and acceptance finally dawned that our world really isn't flat after all.
  Dreams, in the same way, encompass yet another entire dimension of experience, an alternative world as yet unexplored by most, where a fascinating sphere of activity awaits investigation, interpretation, and potential harvest for greater meaning and fulfillment in waking life. The challenge is again the same — common daily experience for the average person offers little proof of this other reality that dreams encompass, let alone the possible value that understanding, interpreting, applying and thereby harvesting this other dimension of experience can bring - unless one can gain perspective from outside the 9-to-5 work day framework and the scientific purely-objective analysis of the system.
  Dream-related mental skills such as dream recall, dream interpretation, and lucid dreaming and information on subjects such as the perhaps-bitter-yet-valuable-medicine meaning of nightmares or precognitive dreams isn’t often taught in our schools; the majority of our parents knew or passed on little about the value of remembering and understanding dreams as we grew up, or the great potential that lucid dreams can offer for our personal evolution. Therefore it's no big surprise that many adults remember few or no dreams, and even less ponder the meaning of dream symbolism or set out to research, interpret and mine the jewels of guidance and creative inspiration hidden just below the surface of consciousness -- in dreams. Basically, nobody told us or showed us how dreams can be extremely practical.
  Current misguided concepts about the value of dreams and dream interpretation not only represent a crucial lack of understanding, but also represent and even bring about a lack of connection with the subconscious and our own deeper, intuitive mind. This long-standing trend of modern society often disregarding dreams and especially nightmares has created an artificial rift within many individuals, and may indirectly or even rather directly be the source for many of our current cultural, social, personal, political and planetary environmental challenges.
  One solution towards personal integration and thereby eventual rebalancing on a planetary level, is for each of us to realize and begin to investigate how our personal dreams, at very least, each night offer a direct means to explore and research inner reality directly and thereby gain unique, undeniable experiences that have deep personal meaning and creative insight to help us solve the problems we face. Further, there is overwhelming evidence that dreams, lucid dreaming, and dream interpretation can be applied in many practical ways to improve waking life, supporting Shakespeare's age-old claim by MacBeth that sleep and dreams are the "chief nourishers in life's feast". Dreams do indeed offer opportunities for fun, adventure, wish fulfillment, creativity, skill mastery, deep personal insight and healing — and dreams offer all this at no cost and with no line-ups!                                                                              

Nothing wrong in Dating:Birds of a feather flock together when they cannot take responsibility for their own lives.

Imagine a private conversation between the man you are dating and his closest friend.  It's a conversation never meant to reach your ears.  Your boyfriend is discussing both the good and the bad of his experience with you so far.

"Don't get me wrong, I really do like her.  I like her a lot, but her friends kind of..."
What do you think would come next if this was your boyfriend talking?  How would he finish this sentence?  "Her friends kind of..."

Your friends can help or harm your relationships in many different ways, but today I am just pointing out one issue you may want to check on.

Here's the issue.  If you hang out with people who are a lot like you, they will attract guys into your life who are kind of like your friends.  Hopefully that's a good thing in your mind.  If the idea of attracting men who fit in with your friends makes you happy, there's nothing you need to do.  You're set.

However, several different problems can arise if you don't like the idea of dating a man with similar habits, hobbies, interests, economic status, lifestyle choices, or other traits your friends have.
Which of these two folk sayings is actually true?

• Birds of a feather flock together.
• Opposites attract.

Opposites generally do not attract.  If they do, the long-term satisfaction in the relationship will be lower, then again many have lasted a life time together enjoying each other and their different attributes and core belief's.

They both enjoy the differences which they both bring to the relationship as they never get bored with each other to stray into another few lovers arms. Friends come and go in everyones life. Many friends, close, love to control the friends life by stating dislike in friends ears. Then they become controled by their friends... depends on how close you are.  Yes, birds of a feather really do flock together.  The more similar you are to your lover, the longer and more satisfying the relationship will be.  I'm not making this up.  I'm just relaying to you what social psychologists have discovered when they researched this question regarding those two common proverbs.

If your friends are very similar to you, they can actually help you filter out men who are not right for you.  When your friends are very much like you, a guy who is not like you will not enjoy spending time around them, and it will become clear he does not fit in.  This will help you make a decision to end the relationship if he does not end it himself.

If you have been spending a lot of time with people you think are fun, but not the kind of people who represent your deepest core values, your lifestyle, or some other important aspect of who you are, you might be accidentally repelling men who would otherwise stick around.
Am I being heartless by suggesting you re-evaluate the people you spend time with?  Don't get me wrong.  You should not dump your friends just to please a guy.

What I'm saying is, friendships often come and go with the circumstances of your life.  They don't move across the country with you when you get a new job or decide the air in Arizona would be better for your allergies.  If you're in the dating game in search of marriage, a husband will stick with you through these circumstances.

Just keep in mind how important it is to attract the kind of person you want to spend your life with. Not what your friends say you need but what you feel you actually want and need in your life. After all Responsibility for your life lays in your hands only, not your friends and family.

Taking responsibility for you life.

Relationship alternative.

When you realise that changing yourself is not actually outright change but growth. A relationship takes two people, committed to each other. Each one is to conform and compromise. Real relationships are about both adopting to each other, when this takes place a marked improvement is noticed in your relationship.

There are always a assumptions or thoughts which you know, which is found be be wrong. You need to be open to new ideas and new concepts in being.

In order for things to improve, you are required to go into them with an open mind; a mind that accepts diversity and change; a mind that seeks opportunity to evolve and realise the potential. Succumbing to change is never a weakness, it is a powerful strength. This strength proves that you are in for the long haul and truly care for your partner, lover, friend and mate. In turn they will have the same devotional goal.

Acknowledge that you cannot and will not change your partner, lover, friend or mate. They evolve and grow with you.

The one thing that has driven men mad is the fact that women tend to gets to know them, develop feelings for them, date them, and committee to them, only to try to change them. And this is where women and men go wrong.

You cannot make a man do certain things nor can you make him following certain habits. All you can do however is to communicate your views, wishes and desires and hope for the best. You also cannot control the thoughts that go through his head, regardless of how determined you are. Do however make requests of him. Do not fall into the category of a manipulator.

There is a warning: There are exceptions to every rule. There are men and women out there who are simple genuine jerks, flakes, wankers, who want to make your life hell. There are men who will forever trapped in their childlike and / or stubborn ways, refusing to expand and grow or even acknowledge growth.

Women as a whole tend to be more emotional and thoughtful. This drives you insane from over thinking and getting nowhere.

How many times have you tried to pour your heart out to your man, only to have him immediately get defensive and act as if you have accused him of something or rather? He then accuses you of overthinking, over analysing and / or living in the past.

He basically informs you to build a bridge and get over it, and then less-than-respectfully you get a grip?

I know the answer is ‘yes’

The resentment is the result for you as the bridge is built and crossing it countless of times, only for you to realise that every time you cross it, you never left. Causing you, by the build-up of negative feelings towards that person. You start to develop “why bother” attitude whether you realise it or not.

You have officially developed a state of mind called, NEGATIVE EMOTIONAL OVERLOAD.

No it is not personified version of a computer virus.

It is when your build-up of anger, frustrations and the pain dealing with your man starts to override any and all pleasant thoughts about him. Leaving things uncompleted and undone.

Once this occurs, you lash out for what seems to be no reason, when actually there are real reasons. You become the one who has the problem. Alternatively you may put up an emotional road block, no longer letting him in. You may find yourself becoming mentally unbalanced. You become emotionally distant. He will lose interest and leave,  not caring of the mess he has placed you in. And his attitude “I don’t know what went wrong” :she is the crazy one” .

Men and women are different. This makes neither right nor wrong – just different. You simply have to embrace that fact. You are two different people. It is that the two of you choose to do with those differences that really matters. You both need to acknowledge and accept those differences for what they are.

When we become familiar with each other we both begin to expect certain behaviours from one and other. When we do not get what we expect, we in the beginning to see annoyances, even the smallest one.. We expect someone to act in the way we deem normal.

 Over time, we give focus on these differences and quirks, some people seize on them and the relationships start to be in jeopardy, others accept them for who they are and build from those, these relationships succeed, expand and grow.

Men hurt. Men can crumble inside and face the greatest adversities with fear and dread,  if he dares to show it on the outside, he risks his reputation and his standing in the society and community as a whole. Rather than risk this, many men simply block things out and shut their emotions down.

Example: What happens when a little girl cries?

Hearts break and people rush to their aid, by scooping them up and cuddling them, reassuring them.

                  What happens when a little boy cries?

More often that you realise, they are told to grow up, man up, or walk it off.

From an very early age, our emotions are stifled and taught to us. Can you see how these may create some adverse and relationship – affecting traits?

Many men will simply err on the side of caution and not show any emotions at all. Women become very emotional and always feeling things.

Men, when they had a heated argument usually tries to act as if nothing much has happened and goes to work or about their business or pleasure. It is either that or he stays angry. Which can build up like a pressure cooker. When they approach their family or friends for support, they are heckled and jeered upon.

Women generally want to pull their hair out, have a dam good cry, and possibly even contact their friends or family for a support system.

Conflict generally weighs more on the woman and stick with them longer. Does this make them weak? Hell NO! Not one iota. Try to imagine a man doing that!  

The key is a delicate balance of emotional strength and real, human, honest to goodness release. When, Where, How? Herein lies the problem men face every single day.

Women claim that they want a man who is not afraid to show emotion, but many women often shudder when they actually see those things in a man.

Many women believe men are emotionless, unfeeling beings. This is far from the real truth. Men can feel and experience just as much fear and uneasiness as any woman. They can feel heart-wrenching loneliness just as often. The difference is that they were not raised to show that part of them openly. Doing so sends them back to the days of childhood and running to the parent to doctor them. More often the men were not geared to be the ones doing the comforting, not the ones needing to be comforted. Generations of men have been raised and wired this way. They simply cannot help it.

There are absolutely exceptions, the problem lies in trying to be one of the exceptions without being judged or seen as less of a man. It feels like a “can’t win” situation, regardless of which they choose.

Do men become the man we deserve and long for or, do the men what is expected by the majority? The answer is not cut and dry as you might think.