Nothing wrong in Dating:Birds of a feather flock together when they cannot take responsibility for their own lives.

Imagine a private conversation between the man you are dating and his closest friend.  It's a conversation never meant to reach your ears.  Your boyfriend is discussing both the good and the bad of his experience with you so far.

"Don't get me wrong, I really do like her.  I like her a lot, but her friends kind of..."
What do you think would come next if this was your boyfriend talking?  How would he finish this sentence?  "Her friends kind of..."

Your friends can help or harm your relationships in many different ways, but today I am just pointing out one issue you may want to check on.

Here's the issue.  If you hang out with people who are a lot like you, they will attract guys into your life who are kind of like your friends.  Hopefully that's a good thing in your mind.  If the idea of attracting men who fit in with your friends makes you happy, there's nothing you need to do.  You're set.

However, several different problems can arise if you don't like the idea of dating a man with similar habits, hobbies, interests, economic status, lifestyle choices, or other traits your friends have.
Which of these two folk sayings is actually true?

• Birds of a feather flock together.
• Opposites attract.

Opposites generally do not attract.  If they do, the long-term satisfaction in the relationship will be lower, then again many have lasted a life time together enjoying each other and their different attributes and core belief's.

They both enjoy the differences which they both bring to the relationship as they never get bored with each other to stray into another few lovers arms. Friends come and go in everyones life. Many friends, close, love to control the friends life by stating dislike in friends ears. Then they become controled by their friends... depends on how close you are.  Yes, birds of a feather really do flock together.  The more similar you are to your lover, the longer and more satisfying the relationship will be.  I'm not making this up.  I'm just relaying to you what social psychologists have discovered when they researched this question regarding those two common proverbs.

If your friends are very similar to you, they can actually help you filter out men who are not right for you.  When your friends are very much like you, a guy who is not like you will not enjoy spending time around them, and it will become clear he does not fit in.  This will help you make a decision to end the relationship if he does not end it himself.

If you have been spending a lot of time with people you think are fun, but not the kind of people who represent your deepest core values, your lifestyle, or some other important aspect of who you are, you might be accidentally repelling men who would otherwise stick around.
Am I being heartless by suggesting you re-evaluate the people you spend time with?  Don't get me wrong.  You should not dump your friends just to please a guy.

What I'm saying is, friendships often come and go with the circumstances of your life.  They don't move across the country with you when you get a new job or decide the air in Arizona would be better for your allergies.  If you're in the dating game in search of marriage, a husband will stick with you through these circumstances.

Just keep in mind how important it is to attract the kind of person you want to spend your life with. Not what your friends say you need but what you feel you actually want and need in your life. After all Responsibility for your life lays in your hands only, not your friends and family.

Taking responsibility for you life.

Tips to move on..Forgive yourself and others

We all get emotionally hurt from time to time.
Sometimes the pain can be intense and it creates feelings of anger, resentment and even hatred, especially if it comes from someone who is very important in our lives.
Our natural instinct is to protect ourselves and that’s what often causes the anger, the resentment and the hatred.
I wonder though, did you know the fastest way to move on from is forgiveness.
So – Here’s three tips to make forgiving easier:
1. Empathy: Recall a time when you made a silly mistake that really hurt someone that was close to you. Remember how much you wanted to take back what you’d done, and how important it was to receive forgiveness.
You don’t have to be happy about what they did, and you certainly should be clear about what they did wrong, but with all that said you can still forgive them. After all, that’s what you would want if you were in their place.
2. Self Love: When someone wrongs you in some way, there’s often an instant need to prove them wrong, and you right. It might well be the case that you are right and they are wrong, but the only persons who can decide and accept that is you.
Trying to prove the other person wrong is just another way of getting them to validate you.
Forget that idea, validate yourself, you don’t need anyone else’s opinion to let you know how wonderful you are.
As you get better at doing that, you’ll find less and less things make you upset or angry.
3. How long do you want to feel like Sh*t for?: Ultimately it’s your choice. You can feel angry and hurt about it for the rest of your life if you want, or you can forgive and begin the healing process.
Forgiving won’t instantly remove the hurt and pain, but it will remove it a lot faster than not forgiving.