How many cares one loses when one decides not to be something but to be someone. - Coco Chanel
I think of life itself now as a wonderful play that I've written for myself, and so my purpose is to have the utmost fun playing my part. - Shirley MacLaine
Learn to be what you are, and learn to resign with a good grace all that you are not. - Henri Frederic Amiel
The most exhausting thing in life is being insincere. - Anne Morrow Lindbergh
Outstanding leaders go out of their way to boost the self-esteem of their personnel. If people believe in themselves, it's amazing what they can accomplish. - Sam Walton
You must have control of the authorship of your own destiny. The pen that writes your life story must be held in your own hand. - Irene C. Kassorla
A man who doesn't trust himself can never really trust anyone else. - Cardinal De Retz
He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away. - Raymond Hull
Put all excuses aside and remember this: YOU are capable. - Zig Ziglar
It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for something you are not. - Andre Gide
We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be. - Kurt Vonnegut
One's real life is often the life that one does not lead. - Oscar Wilde
Unless I accept my faults I will most certainly doubt my virtues. - Hugh Prather
The authentic self is the soul made visible. - Sarah Ban Breathnach
Self-respect is the cornerstone of all virtue. - John Herschel
Respect for ourselves guides our morals, respect for others guides our manners. - Laurence Sterne
Respect yourself if you would have others respect you. - Baltasar Gracian
Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in the world. - Helen Keller
Self-pity gets you nowhere. One must have the adventurous daring to accept oneself as a bundle of possibilities and undertake the most interesting game in the world making the most of one's best. - Harry Emerson Fosdick
Self-respect is the fruit of discipline: the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself. - Abraham Heschel
Self-respect permeates every aspect of your life. - Joe Clark
Someone's opinion of you does not have to become your reality. - Les Brown
Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can. - Richard Bach
Do not wish to be anything but what you are, and try to be that perfectly. - St. Francis De Sales
It is better to be hated for what you are, than to be loved for something you are not. - Andre Gide
To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
The most important opinion you have is the one you have of yourself, and the most significant things you say all day are those things you say to yourself. - Anonymous
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. - Eleanor Roosevelt
I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence but it comes from within. It is there all the time. - Anna Freud
Don't live down to expectations. Go out there and do something remarkable. - Wendy Wasserstein
Whether you think you can or think you can't - you are right. - Henry Ford
I quit being afraid when my first venture failed and the sky didn't fall down. - Allen H. Neuharth
Make the most of yourself, for that is all there is of you. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
If you really put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise your price. - Anonymous
Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong. - Peter T. McIntyre
Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. - Anaïs Nin
You have to expect things of yourself before you can do them. - Michael Jordan
It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves. - Sir Edmund Hillary
Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside of them was superior to circumstance. - Bruce Barton
A great deal of talent is lost to the world for want of a little courage. Every day sends to their graves obscure men whose timidity prevented them from making a first effort. - Sydney Smith
These were some of the self-esteem quotes, which I find very inspiring. They do indeed teach you a lot about life in general. I am sure there are many more quotes as well. Along with the quotes staying positive and having faith in one’s ability will also prove to be beneficial.
Negative thoughts just pull you down and make the situation worst for you. So it is always better to think positive and be optimistic. It may not make everything turn out best for you but it will definitely make you feel happy and satisfied. It gives you strength to cope with your problems increasing the level of your confidence.
Many psychologists say that positive thinking has the power to attract good things to us. In fact, what you think is what happens to you. So always wish for good and nice things and they will surely come to you. Affirmations are similar to wishful thinking, they help you believe in yourself and what you stand for. Read further to know more about daily affirmations for self-esteem, as it helps you develop a positive side of your personality.
What are Daily Affirmations?
Daily affirmations are nothing but positive statements that you can say to yourself every day. They can have a great impact on your thought process and help you achieve what you want. They can bring profound transformations in your personal life by overcoming the negative thoughts. They also provide you with lots of motivation and inspiration you would require to reach your destination and achieve all the goals and aims in life.
Daily affirmations can be in the form of statements, keywords or some mantras and symbols that hold special meaning for you. These daily affirmations promote positive thinking and help you build self-esteem.
There can be a variety of self-affirmations related to different aspects of life, such as success, health, relationships, self-esteem, etc. You can make your daily affirmations on your own using positive statements. But two things you should keep in mind while making your self-affirmations. First, always write affirmations in a positive tone, for example, "I am happy" instead of "I am not sad". Secondly, write affirmations in the present tense, for example, "I am happy" instead of "I will be happy".
Wisely written affirmations work instantaneously for your self-improvement and personal development. This article will provide you with a list of positive daily affirmations for self-esteem, which will bring drastic positive changes in your life.
List of Positive Daily Affirmations
I have the power to change myself.
I am happy that I got the opportunity to do what I like.
I am using the best of my abilities to improve my life.
I like my job and give my hundred precent to it.
I am confident and organized.
I am open minded and use criticism for self-improvement.
I am happy in every situation, even in stressful moments.
I deserve to be successful.
I deserve to be happy.
I deserve to be loved.
I learn from my mistakes.
I am happy to take challenges and risks in life.
I have the knowledge and skills to make my work the best.
I have the decision power and I make right choices.
I think for myself and have my own choice in all aspects of life.
I believe in goodness of life.
I can forgive myself and others too.
I can understand other people and their motives.
I feel proud of myself and my loved ones.
The above daily positive affirmations will help you increase your self-esteem and happiness. Write down the affirmations on a piece of paper and read them in mind or aloud every day. Repeat the affirmations at regular intervals during the day.
You can also stick the affirmations where it can be easily visible, such as dressing table, study table, soft board of your cubicle, etc. It will keep you surrounded by the positive thought all the time. For improving self-esteem, whenever you feel low or the negative thoughts are about strike you, read the affirmations aloud and keep the pessimism away from you.
Daily affirmations for self-esteem program your subconscious in a way that it removes all the negative ideas from there, making you a natural positive thinker. According to law of attraction, affirmations create positive vibes around you and attract only what you want in life. All you have to do is believe in what you want and repeat it with conviction, attention, interest, and desire and I am sure you will create your own world the way you want it.
'I feel low.....'
'Why do I hesitate to speak what I feel like.....'
'I think, I am not that pretty.....'
.....and there goes a list of woes of a person who is unhappy with who he is, what he is and with the conditions that make him the most miserable person under the sun. One word gives a gist for the above lines and that is a low self-esteem.
The traits exhibited by a person, solely depends on the levels of his self-esteem, which is an important aspect of a growing personality. Or should I say, it is one unparalleled quality which could make or break a person. In short, it is a feeling that makes you comprehend the dignity and importance of you being you.
A low self-esteem is worse than an instant death as it makes you feel wretched and gross, further blinding you against the greener pastures of life, which could have been visible only if the self-esteem level was high. So let's discuss some self-esteem activities which would help you evaluate yourself! So ready for a self-esteem test? But here, you go with some self-esteem building activities first!
Self Esteem Activities
Self-esteem is a feeling that comes with confidence, and more with love for self. Or let me put it this way, self-esteem adds 'life' to your otherwise mundane life! Here, let me share some interesting building self-esteem activities, which did make a big difference for me! Trust me, after implementing the below tips on how to improve self-esteem, you will rediscover yourself. Be assured that the new 'you' will be more confident, more stable and more focused in life! But before, you proceed for a self-esteem test, read the activities below! May be the results of the self-esteem test taken, will bring a smile on your face!
Learn to laugh at yourself.....
The first step to overcome low self-esteem is learning to laugh at oneself. By this statement, I do not mean laughing literally, but in the sense that, learn to accept a situation in life with a smile, by first calculating the positive outcome of the given state of affairs. Here, let me share a hypothetical example: You are walking down a lane, and a banana peel on road successfully eludes your sight and you unsuccessfully slip over and fall flat on your face.. I know, it is a very embarrassing situation. But can something that is by gone be undone? No! So now, what are your possible reactions to this situation?
1.You sit there with your face down, wait for someone to come and help you.
2.You get up, look around to see if anyone caught you in that awkward pose, and walk away with a frightened expression with your eyes almost popping out.
3.You just get up, dust yourself, throw the peel into the dustbin, smile at yourself and walk off!
Now, the first point says, your self-esteem is low and it is so low that you are unable to grab the situation by neck and face it!
The second reaction indicates, there is a fear in you, fear of having been caught in such a sticky condition, where the crowd that may (or may not) have watched you, may (or may not) have giggled and there may have been people whom you knew and who might have aired your anecdote to the world! (I must say, being apprehensive is normal, but an apprehension anticipating things which possibly may not even happen is absolutely dopey!)
The third reaction is one, which exhibits the trait of a person with a good self-esteem! Now let me explain! The person (which here, is you) in the third case, has possibly understood, that nothing could avert what happened. He has also understood the fact that the situation can be avoided in future, if it has a chance of recurring.
The smile here is what I call as laughing at one's own mistakes. Why I call this as a boosting up of self-esteem, is because such accidents in life speak volumes of philosophy. It implies, "Nothing abnormal has occurred. Today, it was you, tomorrow it could be someone else! Throw the incident into your baggage of the past, unmount it not without imbibing the lessons learnt and move on!".
Activity
To make this an activity, make a group with your peers, friends and kin, and help everyone narrate the funny, embarrassing, sad, happy, traumatic incidents of their lives. The first person always feels the heat of the situation, but gradually when the crowd joins him, he will be able to overcome his inferiority complex symptoms and will understand that he is not the only one, after all! As the best thing is, you along with the crowd will laugh, cry, empathize and then feel the importance of the smile that follows that no situation in life is too embarrassing to trouble your self-esteem all lifelong!
Engage yourself in a world beyond academics.....
Someone has rightly said, "When you dance, forget there is an audience and forget there is a podium and just dance like you never did before!". When you do this, you will automatically feel an aura of high energy engulfing you, which in turn boosts your confidence levels.
If you are in school or in college, or even in a job, ensure that you participate in all activities, which can include dance, music, painting, debating etc.., no matter how much poorly you perform and believe me, there will be some activity which will make you discover your passion and tempt you to chase it!
Activity
Enrol yourself in singing or dance competitions, or may be if you like painting, you may attempt one. Trust me, you will have a reason to be happy and proud, which at one time may not have been a part of your emotions. This is one of the best means of how to boost self-esteem.
Speech is your birth right! Use it!
I would say, of all the senses, speech is one aspect which portrays the real you in the crowd! Many times, failing to speak, to ask what one feels like, becomes a root reason for a low self-esteem, which further churns the feeling of fear and shame.
Well, there is absolutely no harm in speaking your mind out! For instance, you are attending a lecture and you do not understand a point, the best thing for you to do is, to get up, shoot your query and get your answer. It does not matter, if people giggle at your ignorance but what matters is, you get what you want and may be a few more people like you get the piece of knowledge they may have been missed otherwise.
Activity
Participate in debate competitions and extempore. The first time will be gruelling to face a crowd and talk to them. But trust me; this is one of the most effective ways on how to raise your self-esteem and confidence.
Melt in the crowd.....
Socializing is the best way for improving self-esteem. Meeting new people will help you broaden your perception about people. Let's say, it will help an ignorant frog in a well to take a big leap into the ocean! Attending technical workshops and personality building programs are some of the best ways to be a part of the crowd, you never knew!
Activity
Try compering! This may not be everyone's cup of tea, but there is no harm in trying it either! When you host a show, you get to see the maximum number of people in different moods and it gives a feeling 'on the top of the world', when you come to realize that you can actually control the atmosphere of the crowd you are facing.
Say to you 'I am the best'
Last but not the least, love thyself! A beautiful life, a strong body and a mind to keep both in sync, is a gift from nature. Value it! As soon as you get up in the morning, the first person you meet is you! Smile at your mirror image and the other look alike smiles back at you! Speak out 'Rise and shine! Today, it is a beautiful day!'. This is one of the best daily affirmations for self-esteem. It is said, positive thinking is like a booster for self-esteem. Practice this self-motivation technique every day and your self-esteem will grow in leaps and bounds!
Activity
Pamper yourself! Eat healthy food, drink a lot of water and wear clean clothes. Help the needy and at least make three people laugh a day! Not only will you love yourself more, your enhanced self-esteem will help you look at the brighter side of life, of course with its shades of grey!
Test Your Self Esteem
Now here is a small self-esteem test for you! You do not have to give me answers, but try to assess yourself with the answers you decide and you will come to know whether you need to work or not on your self-esteem level.
•Do you always procrastinate?
•Do you feel ashamed of who you are and what you are?
•Are you always afraid of what the world thinks of you?
•Do you blame yourself for all the Pandora boxes that come unwarmed?
•Do you think, the whole world has some personal vendetta against you?
•Are you quite dependent on people to dictate your tasks and schedule?
•Are you afraid to speak the right thing at the right time?
•Do you think you are not very attractive?
•Do you predict that, something that is in store for you is never going to be good?
•Do you love yourself?
These answers will help you understand whether or not you have passed this self-esteem test! Building self-esteem in children is very important, and must be done right from a tender age. Schools and colleges must make every child participate in maximum extracurricular activities to help them explore their hidden talents.
Workplaces should have a lot of team building activities for their employees to help them overcome their unknown fears. I hope, this article has helped you evaluate your self-esteem levels, if not great, but a little bit!
The term 'self-esteem' is defined in many ways, and as we summarize the definitions, it can be said that, self-esteem is nothing but the way you think about yourself. Higher the degree of belief in yourself, higher is the self-esteem. Often, the word self-confidence is confused with self-esteem.
According to Nathaniel Brandon, a psychotherapist and well-known writer from Canada, self-esteem is defined as the experience of being competent to cope with the basic challenges of life and being worthy of happiness.
Building Self Esteem
It is not that difficult to build self-esteem. All it takes is conditioning of the mind. After all, our mind plays an important role in self-development. Of course, there are external factors which affect our lives, but a healthy mind is able to build up self-esteem much faster. Listening to your heart is important. The crux of the idea of 'listening to your heart', is to do what you really want to do. It helps you realize your desires and goals in life. Trying to please everyone around, proves to be a barrier in your quest to build self-esteem.
Get rid of the hustle and bustle of life and spend some time in silence every day. It helps you settle down and develop your inner strength. Come out of the negative thoughts as they only make you weak. Don't be too critical about your actions. Constantly challenging yourself is one way of enhancing self-esteem. It helps break the mental barriers which we create around ourselves, knowingly or unknowingly.
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